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It's not funny

Posted by Anantha | Posted in , | Posted on Saturday, June 29, 2013

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When TOI had this ad of Chennai Express on the front page some time back, with SRK and Deepika in 'South Indian costume' and dark, fat lungi clad goons in the background, I said to myself  'oh no, not again'. Does the cultural stereotypes in films/ads/reality shows/daily soaps bother me? Yes, it bothers me, but as equally as any other stereotypes.

Talking about the cultural stereotypes - it equally bothers me when Hindi films have actors talking with 'that' accent when they are playing the roles of south Indians as much as a Nepali is shown as goorkha as much as a Punjabi is shown as loud and always ready-to-dance-for-a-bhangra beat or as much as a stingy Gujarati or as much as a Rasagulla and Mishti Doi craving Bengali. If these are inter-state portrayals, coming to Kannada movie, why does an old Coorgie gentleman always have to be a rifle wielding ex-army personnel with handle bar moustache and a Mangalorean has to start every sentence with 'enta maraya, manDe bechcha aagide' (an idiom in coastal Karnataka to say one is tensed) and a Uttara Karnataka guy always has to spout cuss words.

Though I never consider Rohit Shetty a 'thinking film maker', but these stereotypes irk a little when you see too much of them all around. Agree, comedy sprouts from exaggeration and the intention of many of these gags is to be funny, but these gags misfire when the exaggeration is remotely authentic and characters become mere caricatures. I know jokes are subjective, but for me it stops getting funny when the undertone is 'you are like this only' and becomes utterly funny when the undertone is 'we are like this only'. I hope that distinction summarizes what I find funny and what I find offensive. Now is the tricky question of who are 'we' and who are 'they' rather more precisely, when do 'they' become 'we' and ‘they’ fail to become ‘we’. The simplest answer I would like to give is - it's 'we' when we embrace all idiosyncrasies of all the languages and cultures across the length and breadth of India and make fun of 'our own' ethos. A good friend of mine – forget any effort to learn Kannada – he cannot even distinguish between Kannada, Tamil, Telugu and Malayalam even after staying in many southern states for more than 10 years. Mind you, there is a clear distinction between ignorance and reluctance. This guy is plain reluctant. Isn't that a complete failure to understand Indianness and a missed opportunity to become 'we'? 

Enough of defining the offensive cultural gags. Let me also mention few nice playful characters where the director knew the nuances of the cultural barriers and successfully treads the tight rope walk.

1. The cultural clash of the Punjabi family and the Bong family in Vicky Donor. I found it funnier when a Punjabi friend of mine explained me some of the intricacies of the dialogues and the gestures.

2. The role of protagonist’s father ably played by Sundar Raj in the Kannada movie Pancharangi. Sundar Raj was the perfect middle class English loving Brahmin uncle, whose use of Kanglish and mannerisms are just too funny. We friends laugh our hearts out how many ever times we see that movie.


These are the ways to be funny without offending any one’s sentiments. I wish all the film makers were this sensible…

PS: Oh! by the way, read this post by one of my favorite film critic Bharadwaj Rangan which inspired me to scribble some of my thoughts on this topic.

Sports and Genes

Posted by Anantha | Posted in , | Posted on Wednesday, March 17, 2010

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India was hosting the prestigious Hockey World Cup this time. Media publicized the whole event quite well. Hero Honda roped in Sehwag, Priyanka Chopra and Rajyavardhan Rathore to promote Indian hockey. People had forgotten about the rift that had erupted between the Indian hockey players and the FIH just few months back. Sports enthusiasts were ready to keep aside some time of their TV watching for hockey matches. After plundering their arch rival Pakistan, Indian hockey team got back into their groove with miserable losses against Australia, Spain and England. By the end of the tournament, India managed to finish 8th in the tally table. I do not follow Hockey much, have never touched the hockey stick in my entire life, but that is never a criteria for me to not notice that we guys were never a match to the Europeans, South/North Americans or the Australians in this sports. They were quicker on the field, their passes were precise, they had stronger legs. Our guys looked totally illeqipped and underprepared when compared to their counterparts. That reminded me of a discussion I once had with one of my friends about the athletic ability and genetics. On a serious note, this can not be an excuse for the dismal performance of our sportsmen in any sport, this is just a parallel thought on the role the genes could play and how influential they are.

None of us can deny cricket is the only sports Indians seem to have excelled in. At the same time, I do not consider Cricket is an athletic game. Hope you all agree with me. Let me consider some athletic games (case study kinda). In Tennis - though we have soft corners for Paes, Bhupathi and Sania Mirza but let's be frank in accepting that they can not even come close to win a singles grandslams tournaments. Football - we hear the names of Bhutia and Chhetri now and then, but Indian football is ranked 130th in the world currently. That says it all. So in which other sports is our 100 billion populated country good at? When it comes to Track & Field events, it is sad that I can remember only PT Usha and Anju Bobby George - former  won at least an Olympic medal, latter cant boast about the same. Swimming, Gymnastics... I do not know a single Indian who has shone in the international level.

Enough of scratching our heads to get the names of Indian sports personalities. Now try answering these:

Name a white athlete who holds the world record in sprinting (100m / 200m).. It is always a Caribbean or black Americans who have ruled this sport. 

Name a black guy who has won an Olympic medal in swimming (any style, 100m to 400m).. It has always been the reign of white people in water.

Why Chinese gymnasts always dominate that sport...?

Why Kenyans / Ethiopians always win marathons..?

Don't these questions ring a bell in our minds..?

Researchers say, athletic performance is affected by genes (particularly the genes which regulate cardio vascular endurance, lung capacity and muscle fibre type) and there are also more important external factors like motivation, training and equipments, nutrition and environmental influences. Apart from them there are also characteristics that are less influenced by genes such as reaction time, agility and balance. Check this, this and this for more info. Myriad of research papers would have been published at the expense of millions of dollars all over the world, but till date genetic scientists have not been able to pin-point a gene/set of genes that affect the athletic performance of human beings. So it is a secret yet.

Until then, Indian athletes, footballers, tennis players, hockey players have another excuse for their under performance - their 'inferior genes';)

IPL10 - A futuristic look at IPL

Posted by Anantha | Posted in , , , , | Posted on Monday, April 27, 2009

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Disclaimer: This is a hypothetical and futuristic take on IPL

This is the year 2017. 10th season of IPL is about to kick off in few days in Las Vegas. Here is an account of IPL, the way it has grown and changed in the last 10 years since it started in 2008.

  • The IPL which started as a league of 20-20 game back in 2008 is now reduced to 10-10 overs, making it the shortest form of Cricket. The reason being cricket enthusiasts started to lose interest in 20-20 after few years of IPL. People demanded more excitement as they considered 20-20 was pretty slow game (!)
  • There are 15 teams now participating in this IPL-10. Shimla Apples is the newest team playing its first IPL. Preity Zinta who was once a co-owner of Punjab Kings XI, is the sole owner of this team. She ventured into owning a team of her own after an alleged spilt-up with her long time beau Ness Wadia. The pair has finally split after multiple reconciliation efforts by their family and friends. She says now she will be able to concentrate fully on IPL as she has taken a sabbatical from her acting career. Well, we all know that she hardly had any roles in her kitty, since the first season of IPL ;) Yadavs of Patna is another relatively new team with Lalu Yadav's son Tejaswi Prasad Yadav captaining the side. The team is owned by none other than Rabri Devi. This team is a good contender for the IPL trophy this time.
  • This season of IPL has most number of baseball players (on an average, every team has 2) than any other IPL seasons in the past. Most of the team owners and coaches felt it was a strategic necessity to buy baseball players for the team as there are records that 220 (in 10 overs) is also not a safe total to defend these days. For this reason, team went on a buying spree across the world. Most baseball players were bought from teams in US. This is when BCCI showed interest in conducting IPL-10 in Las Vegas. BCCI says it is also an effort to popularize cricket in US. The newly set up Cricket Board of USA has managed to set up a new plush indoor stadium for IPL-10.
  • The cricket pitch is prepared of synthetic material unlike the hard soil pitches of the outdoor stadiums. This kind of pitch is supposed to bring ball straight on to the bat without any scope for spin, swing, and enabling batsmen to just cudgel the ball. The ball is also a made with a mix of leather and special rubber, making it much lighter and is supposed to cover long distances when hit by batsmen.
  • Ever since IPL-7, ICC has permitted the use of double sided bats made of special fiber instead of wooden bats used in other conventional formats of the game. These double sided bats help the batsmen to hit the ball farther without much effort. These bats look very much similar to baseball bats, which also helps the baseball players in the team. The word club is being used synonymous to bats these days.
  • New set of rules say every team could only play 4 Indian players and the rest have to be foreign players. This is an encouraging move as it gives the team the best of talents across the globe.
  • This is the 3rd successful year of the new chairman Another Bindralmiashah, after there were allegations on Lalit Modi of dwindling the money of BCCI during his long tenure as IPL chairman.
  • 18 year old Arjun Sachin Tendulkar is the new sensation of IPL-10. There were rumors that his father, legendary Sachin Tendulkar did not want his son to start his career with T10, instead he wanted his son to start with the traditional format like ODIs. Arjun Sachin Tendulkar is the costliest buy out by any team in the history of IPL. Rumour mills say Mumbai team quoted him close to 500 million USD for a contract of 3 years.
  • IPL-10 is also going to be the last IPL of arguably the God of IPL, Yusuf Pathan. He has decided to retire from cricket after this season. When asked about his next plans, he says he is already in talks with few of the team owners to join them as batting coach. Yusuf is the only batsman in the history of IPL to have an overall strike rate of over 250!!
  • There is also a new variable being added to the statistics of batsmen. Along with number of matches played, run aggregated and strike rate etc, this new variable is gonna be number of sixes hit by the batsman. A similar element will be included for bowlers, for the number of sixes conceded.
  • Cutting edge technology always has been part of cricket.
  1. The new technology enables to sniff and tap the thoughts of the brains of bowlers, batsman and fielders which is available for the analysis when the match is in progress. But grey heads have revolted against adapting this technology as this information could be used by the opponent coaches to guide their players on field.. But there is also an argument that it is fair as the info is open for all to use and make plans and counter plans.
  2. Umpires no longer stand in the field. In an effort to nullify human errors, all the umpiring decisions are taken by the third (but the only!) umpire.
  • There are also rumors that there are gonna be no bowlers in any team from next IPL. Due to this bowlers' future is in doldrums. Instead of bowlers, there are gonna be bowling machines used. Automotive giants of Japan and S Korea seem to have prepared the prototypes of bowling machines which can generate a maximum speed of 200 mph. Whether there has to be a regulation on this speed of bowling as it requires super human batsmen to judge the balls thrown at these extreme speeds is yet to be decided by ICC. The legends of the game like Sunila Gavaskar, Steve Waugh and likes who have always expressed their dismay against commercialization of cricket now have openly lashed out at robotizing cricket also.
  • Bryan McFixer is returning to T10 format after clearing the charges of match fixing in IPL season 9. He had played four continuous dot balls in the semi finals of IPL-9.
  • Television broadcast rights have been bought by Zoom channel this year in India.
  • There are close to 250 official commercial sponsors overall for this year’s IPL.
  • The popularity of T10 has affected the snail paced ODIs let alone Tests. There are only 5 test playing nations remaining now. Kenya being the last and latest team to get the nod from ICC as test playing nation. Rest of the teams are England, Australia, West Indies and Sri Lanka. India stopped playing tests 3 years back, as BCCI decided it was not a lucrative business.
  • According to the latest rule, if a batsman fails to score in the required run rate, he could be called off by the batting side captain. A batsman of choice (any player from the squad who has not played yet in that innings) could replace him. Mostly like a substitute in a football match.
  • At last how on earth can there not be anything special about cheerleaders when IPL is being held in LV? This time many of the teams have hired strippers from various Clip joints of LV. Various Women's rights activists in India and as well as in US have protested this nanga naach in the name of Cricketainment. But chairman of IPL, has announced a part of the profit of IPL is gonna be donated for the welfare of Commercial sex workers in India. This has pacified many of the activists in India.
  • BCCI is also thinking of introducing 5-5 overs match before cricket enthusiasts turn their faces away from T10. Would they name it F5? And will it remain a mass hysteria like F1 for decades? Only time has the answers in its belly...

5 . sm 1 in Rangashankara dis weekend

Posted by Anantha | Posted in | Posted on Friday, April 11, 2008

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'Five point some one' play will be staged in Rangashankara, both the days of this weekend. Having cherished the book so much, Im dying to see it transformed into a different medium.

But the ticket fare is quite too high… Its 200 bucks..! I have seen 'oDakalu bimba' b4 in Rangashankara, I remember the price was not so high.

Hmmm.. I know its just 200 bucks.. but come on, its more than the price of a movie ticket. [Damn the multiplex, I’ve never been to ny of the multiplexes n ll never talk about it]

It’s the similar dilemma I face every time I go to buy an original DVD or book.. the price ll be just too high..

Hmm.. To spend or not to spend…

Marriage - a gamble

Posted by Anantha | Posted in , | Posted on Thursday, March 13, 2008

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“They love each other yaar.. gharawale samajh te nahi hain na..”, My colleague said finishing his last sip of coffee. It was just another conversation during the coffee break. He had briefly told the (so called) love story of his cousin sister who lives in SA.

After attentively listening to the story, I asked, “so they r serious about marriage?”

“haan yaar…”, colleague replied in isn’t-that-obvious-tone.

Though my presets are quite idiosyncratic about marriage [love or arranged], I continued asking questions about them.

“how old is your cousin?”. He replied “19 ke aas pas hogi”.

Though I believe age n maturity don’t go hand in hand always, I snapped back with the question that was ready in my quiver, “you say she is 19 n guy is her classmate.. you say they know each other from past few months… You think they are matured enough to take such a decision?”

Colleague said, “I know her personally man. She is matured to take a call”, expressing slight unhappiness about me being skeptical about the maturity of his sister.

I continued, “I mean aisa nahi hona chahiye ki, dono ne apna apna phone bill baDhaya, thoDe saath saath ghoome aur pyar samajh baiThe..After all both are studying still”

Our conversation did not yield any fruitful results after that, neither my so called wise suggestion would have affected the lives of that to-be-couple. I seriously doubt any girl or boy of such tender age being wise enough to think of a right life partner for him/her.Forget about teenagers, here is a story of another colleague of mine who recently got engaged. These days he is quite elated about the way his courtship period is going and also happy for having got the official permission from his parents n to be in-laws to flirt with his fiancee.

Once I was quizzing him about his fiancee just out of curiosity.

“what are her hobbies man..? I mean what does she like/dislike?”

“she is not a movie buff… she says she reads a lot…”, he was answering to me patiently.

“I know the last time you touched any book was the day before your last semester BE exam”, I smiled only after making sure he took my comment lightly and smiled back.

After conversing for some time, I got into the mood of quizzing him again, “what do you feel is the common trait or common interests between both of you? That makes you feel both of you can face the challenges of life jointly”. I know that question was tricky to answer.

My friend thought for a while and answered, “both of us like eating fish…”!!!!!!!! I was stunned by his answer. Reassured my self that he was not saying jovially, he looked pretty serious about discovering a common trait between him n his fiancee.

I had asked him that question expecting him to say some qualities in both of them which will help them juggling their married life… and he says both of them like eating fish…!!!!!!!!

Mind you he is not of silly types to answer for my question in such a way, neither do I waste my energy in asking such a question to ny silly person I know.

It could even be like he said that just for the sake of answering to my question. But what if he really meant that…?!!!!!!!???! Quite shocking to hear such a confused answer from a man who will soon enter into a crucial phase of his life..

cost-ly of living!

Posted by Anantha | Posted in | Posted on Thursday, September 13, 2007

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I go to cafeteria of my office. I order for a veg puff. And the chap says it costs Rs.10/-!!! One puff and 10 rupees..!!
In most of the new food counters of our tech park, all varieties of meals cost not less than Rs. 80 + vat

Other day I ended up paying Rs.75/- for two scoops of chocolate ice cream in Baskin Robbins. Forget about the brand behind the ice cream.. For me its just 2 scoops of ice cream. That means each scoop costs 35+ rupees...

I have paid Rs.250/- for a veg starter in one of the posh hotels on Church Street. That hardly contained 6-7 pieces of fried vegetables kinda.

I have instances of frnds getting the interest amount in 100s for the balance of 40 paisa that was not paid in their credit card bill.

The auto drivers never feel it is mandatory to return change less than Rs.5/-
Recently an auto driver demanded Rs.40/- from Malleswaram Rlwy station to Sadashiv Nagar. It was not an odd time or late in night. It was around 3 O'clock in the afternoon.

Why is it that we see all garments of major brands start from a range of Rs.1500/-. I have few examples of so called branded T-shirts shedding colors after the first wash. Such a pain to see coloured water draining out..

My cousin sis pays some Rs.6000/- odd for her college bus every year. This is one category of fees that loyally follows the exponential curve. She is left with very few alternatives, as it is too far to travel in BMTC and impossibly far to ride on a vehicle of her own.

When we started searching for a house for rent some time back, We were surprised to see the rent not less than Rs.6000/ for a 2 BHK house in our locality.

I have seen my colleagues cribbing about the EMIs they pay every month. Some of them almost end up paying half of their salaries. They have to continue doing it at least for next 15 yrs or so..

I don have to tell you the price of land in B'Lore.. Its no more a dream to buy a piece of land in Bangalore, rather its a nightmare

See guys, my point is this. WE ARE BEING LOOTED. I feel brand fanatic and mall culture infected ppl too deserve the credit for my rantings. But I am certainly not amongst these people who wudnt mind splurging on these things.. I find no point in shelling out such big bucks for these commodities.

All business men around us are cashing on the mentality of this category of ppl and inflicting the same on all of us..

Is it because we live in IT capital of India...? [I agree its even worse in other metros of India].

I don understand economics... I donno whether its cos of inflation..? or Is this effect of globalization on inflation... or wat ever.

Do we need to stage a civil dis obedience / non cooperation movement against all this, as Bapuji did against Brits...

When is the end for all this..?

We are not here to make friends ?!?

Posted by Anantha | Posted in , | Posted on Tuesday, December 05, 2006

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Was roaming in Koramangala with my B.E. pals on SUN evening. After munching the junk here n there we were about to leave.. When we were walking towards the place where we had parked our bikes, there appeared two familiar faces... heyyy! thats Mohit and Jagadish [Me, Mohit and Jagadish had joined Mphasis 2 yrs back along with few more guys]. It was a long-time-no-c-mulaaquaat. Exchanged few words about work n life and dispersed.

The same night, so many thoughts ruled my mind while I was sprawling on bed. Thoughts flashed back to November 2004. We were 11 elated bunch of freshers who had joined Mphasis. Me, Jagadish, Mohit, Ram, Smruthi, Sneh, Arthi, Fatima, Jason, Manu, Shobha, Rashmi and Kusuma. All were excited holding the offer letter of our first job in our hands. Then began corporate training for months. We were all just out of college getting accustomed to the corporate mould.. were hanging out together.. few outings in the weekends..movies n theatres...celebrating each others' b-days with cakes and gifts...

By the time the training got over, we had become good friends! Then
on a fine day, We were all scattered into different projects [though in the same office premises]. Still our bonding continued.. calling up each other for snacks and lunch breaks. It continued for few months.. Then later, few became busy with their project deadlines and schedules and were not regularly appearing in our gang. I too started missing the gang for lunch and other breaks. Then it started getting difficult to gather in weekends also. If one had to go out with his/her friends, some one else had to come to office on weekends to meet the deadlines. So its just that we had prioritized our other schedules and had relegated our petty gatherings... None to blame.. I too had skipped many...

After few months, some of us were moved to different projects.. this time it was not in the same office premises.. I had to move to a different office in Bannerghatta Rd.. while the rest continued in Global village. Months passed by.. mail transactions reduced.. phone calls reduced... By the time we had settled down, we had completed one year in Mphasis.

We all got yearly appraisals.... some of us sulked, some of us jumped in joy... some of us got onsite opportunities... some of us fumed with the J factor! Sneh left the company and flew to Aussie land for higher studies. We all started becoming busy in our own worlds. If not so, at least we pretended to be busy.. I felt the bloody ego had crept in some how!!

I dont know what went wrong.. everything was nice and perfect once. Now it all seems to be a dream. Now it has become Mission Impossible to gather even 5 of us for a dinner or a movie. We have no one to blame but ourselves. Some of us do not have the courtesy to call back even after seeing 2-3 missed calls in their cell phones... I too have done that few times to few guys!!.. damn... it was so rude to do that...

Everything has changed with time.. Can colleagues be friends..? Then I get a voice resonating in my mind 'We aren't here to make friends...' But is that true?

Today here in the current work place I see Tony, Indrajith,Vijay, Anobika, Sindhu et al [freshers in our project] in the cafeteria laughing for each others' jokes.. sitting around the table for
lunch... I sigh and say long live friendship... I wish it was me, Mohit, Smruthi, Ram, Jagadish... around the table for lunch...

Here is a chunk of a poem by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

"Ships that pass in the night, and speak each other in passing,
Only a signal shown and a distant voice in the darkness:

So on the ocean of life, we pass and speak one another,
Only a look and a voice, then darkness again and a silence."

Let them play with their grand children...

Posted by Anantha | Posted in | Posted on Wednesday, September 13, 2006

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Aged Sardar
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If u had read my previous post, any one can imagine the heaven of time we guys had in that trekking. But all was not well in that trip. There was a thought that kept poking my heart all these days. Remember Pyara Pujabi Dhaba? It all started from there.

As that was a genuine punjabi dhaba, we could see lot of punjabi truck drivers who had come there to fill their stomachs. Truck drivers with not so tidy turbans, with big bellies, kurthas with spotted design of engine oil dirt, with long beard and moustaches concealing their tiring faces, few young sardars with neatly shaved cheeks teasing few other and trying to add some life to the milieu, some resting on the cot..
It took no time for us to realise that the dhaba was not only a mere food gulping place for those truck drivers. It was a place for get together for the long-time-no-see colleagues... or who knows a father may get to see his son there, who had left their home with their trucks in different directions to earn their livelihoods....

Of all these, there sat an eldest sardar having his food. He must be easily 65+. That paaji was certainly not savouring the food.. He even seem detached from the other gang of sardars. He was swallowing the morsels just for the heck of it... He must be away from his family for days or months who knows... He must be thinking of his wife who must have been waiting for his return in some corner of Punjab... or he must be thinking of his naughty grand daughter who must have been slipped into deep slumber by now... or was he thinking of clearing his debts...

That raised many questions in my heart...What would be the circumstance that is forcing this sardar to work at this age..? Certainly it must be his financial condition... may be his children must have ditched him...


Old florist
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I must mention about an old woman who sells garlands near our house. I am observing this woman from the days we shifted our house to this locality [may be from past 10-12 years]. This old lady always sits on the footpath near the bus stand with few other lady florists. She is not the same as I had seen her 10 yrs back. Age has worn her out. She no more seems enthusiastic when a customer approaches her asking for the garlands. I have not seen her talking to any other women around in the recent times..

The other day when I was walking back to home after the office, I looked at her. She was seated more hunched than ever. I observed her closely; she had caught sleep while preparing the garlands..!! That really churned my heart.. This is not the age to earn for your family or for ur own bread... How cruel must be fate on her, which is making her to sit on the foot path at this age preparing garlands...? What great profit would she make even if she sells 40-50 of such garlands a day...?


There must be millions of such senior citizens who still go to earn their livelihoods, battling their ageing bodies and emaciating health condition...
Are we guys so cruel to ignore the old coolies carrying your bags pantingly, those old beggars near the temples, and those old watchmen of multi storied apartments...?
Ho can we just walk away with out even feeling guilt in our heart after seeing such people?

We should do some thing to stop them working at this age.. Why do our Govt do not have any plans of pensions for senior citizens? I know even if they implement such things, what is the guaranty that the money will reach those old hands...? What is the guaranty that the children will not gulp that money also..?

We should better this condition some how...
Let that sardar carry his grand children on shoulder and go for a stroll in his lush green 'kheths'
Let that old florist lady enjoy the babbling of her grand child sitting at home...

my sincere request to all Mothers

Posted by Anantha | Posted in | Posted on Monday, June 12, 2006

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Had been to a family function recently. Not to mention separately there were lot of kids playing all around, acting as if they were caged by their parents, all these days in their houses. There were some 3-4 toddlers [all of age group 7-8 Yrs] running all around, crying, beating up each other, complaining to their mothers, running from one end of the corridor to the other. I was observing them throught out. This went on even after the lunch also.. I expected them to just lie asleep in some corner of the house after the lunch... but the food made them even more fiercer I believe. I was getting a bit irritated by their silly complaints [I agree, we would also be like them at their ages..]. Then just to make them sit quietly for some time, I called all 3 of them and told them that if they sit quietly for 10 mins i would give them a chocolate. Thank God, that trick really helped me. They sat quietly on three adjacent chairs for first 5 mins or so.. then one of them started giggling for no reason. Then they slowly started wagging their tails one after the other. My warning dint help much.. At the end of the 10 mins, i gave a chocolate to the quietest among them... The moment I handed over the chocolate to 1, one among the other two started screaming as if she is going to blow the roof off.. It was quite unexpected for me.. I tried to convince her saying that BEST ONE WON, and U WEREN'T THE BEST, HENCE U WONT GET THE CHOCOLATE. I think these words never got into her mind... She complained about not getting a chocolate to her mother [her mother was noticing all this from a distance]. Her mother also tried to convince her.. but failed miserably.. Then just to get rid of that noise, she gave her a pack of chocolates [!!!?????] that she had got in her bag. This made the baby quiet, it ran away giving me a stare of 'I got it anyways..'

There is a message i want to convey to all mothers / guardians of young kids here. The above anecdote would look simple as the mother found a short term solution for the problem of crying child, but she has made a major mistake here. Here the child is not getting to know the importance of winning a competition / race. In turn its not getting the toil put behind winning a race, the child assumes a loser's scream will force her/his mother to give everything s/he desires in life. But neither life is so simple nor an angel like mother will always listen to ur grievances through out ur life. The ideal thing could have been that mother using this petty competition as a valuable lesson of life for the child. Why can't mothers tell the children, if u wanna get the chocolate, u have to wrk for it ??

Now lets view the incident in the perspective of child who won the chocolate... the lesson it would have got is disastrous ! Even though she won the competition, she ended up getting a single chocolate... but the child which cried after losing the competition got a bunch of it... My God.. It would leave an impression on the winning child as if winning the race made her a LOSER... At the end of the day, the winning child would lose the importance of winning... It would also follow the easier path as of the losing child.. So i request all the mothers in the world to make their children realise the importance of winning a prize by wrking for it.. by fighting for it.. by sweating for it.. And not by CRYING for it...

Quote: Nobody wins a silver, they just lose GOLD

Bangalore- A citizen's critical view..

Posted by Anantha | Posted in | Posted on Saturday, April 22, 2006

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Bangalore- A citizen's critical view..